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Post by PandieCandii on Oct 31, 2005 19:30:58 GMT -5
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Post by Pixie on Oct 31, 2005 19:44:25 GMT -5
YES! it truly sounds like you thought this true and as I was reading it I got a strong feeling that this is what you need to do-so yes it is worth it-and honey I will call greyhound for you if you need me to-and parents are not always right-we all know that-they mean well but they are not us-after all if I listened to my parents I would not know any of you*hugs tightly*just holler if you need me to do anything like make phone calls for you baby-I love you
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Post by Hallie on Oct 31, 2005 19:53:12 GMT -5
Darling, parents will always try to rule their children's lives in one form or another. Its in their genetic make-up. Once you've done what you've said, they'll be a bit sore for awhile, but they can't stay mad forever. You do what's right for YOU, and forget about everyone else. I know it sucks having to do this on your own, but it sounds like a wonderful idea to me, and it sounds like you are doing well in your push to regain your life. I'm proud of you for pushing this far.
The only thing I can suggest is make an itinerary. First write everything in list form that you have to do. Then make a hard copy of your budget and how your expenses will have to play to make it work... then set to calling and and actually booking the U-Haul and such. Once you get your focus on the big picture and get it into motion, everything will fall into place... including your parents. I stand behind you, even if they don't. Just make sure you think everything out... which it sounds as if you already have. *Hugs* If I were there I'd already be helping you pack and call Greyhound for you.
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Post by PandieCandii on Oct 31, 2005 20:27:38 GMT -5
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Post by Pixie on Oct 31, 2005 20:33:30 GMT -5
honey long distance means nothing when it comes to helping friends-and besides Greyhound has an 800 #*hugs*
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Post by Gibby on Nov 1, 2005 0:01:30 GMT -5
I agree. From reading your initial post, I was so happy for you. It sounded so thought out and very organized. It sounded like you were happy with your decision, if that's possible to pick up on from a post on the boards....everyone else has said it, but it's true. Just because your parents think it's wrong, doesn't mean that it's wrong. They are probably afraid to lose you and that you are growing up.
After I graduated from college, I moved home to live and save up money and pay off my loans. After two years, I was ready to move out. My mom struggled with this big time. I'm from the suburbs of Chicago, IL but work downtown. Originally, I wanted to move downtown. My mom didn't really like that idea, and was like, why would you want to move downtown?? And I was like, why wouldn't I want to live downtown? Really, it all came down to the fact that I was growing up, and I feel like she thought that she would lose me.... she had to come to terms with the fact that I am growing up and am making my own decisions now. ( I didn;'t end up moving downtown, though it wasn;t because of my mom, it was for my roommate).
And I agree with Hallie, that she might be a little upset at the beginning, but will realize that it is for your best interest, and should be behind you......they are your parents...I can;t imagine your parents abandoning you because of your choice of residence. It sounds like the right choice for you at this moment. ~huggles~
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Post by PandieCandii on Nov 1, 2005 10:12:06 GMT -5
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Post by Hallie on Nov 1, 2005 11:59:32 GMT -5
I'm glad you're not discouraged yet. Its too soon in the game for that nonesense. You're doing fine it seems. It makes me feel even better about your situation knowing that you'll have family nearby that you can trust and count on. That might also make your parents a bit more at ease... ya never know... (Even if they don't show it and still insist that you're doing the wrong thing.)
And remember, every bump in the road can be fixed with the right steamroller... or the right tire. Steamroller would be suddenly coming into mountains of money and not having to worry about how to get from one place to another anymore... but since that is less likely to happen... the tire is your brother fixing his car, or taking the train. If its anything like here, if you buy the tickets a week or two in advance its even cheaper than buying them the day before... Its something to check into...
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Post by Altariel on Nov 1, 2005 17:43:53 GMT -5
This is the first chance I have had to come through here and catch up with you......and I agree with everyone else (and they probably said it all better that I ever could)
I am glad that you are not discouraged yet ~S~ You are taking the steps in the right direction to make things better for yourself and I am pretty much around everyday so if you ever need to talk, I am here
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Post by PandieCandii on Nov 1, 2005 20:19:49 GMT -5
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Post by Pixie on Nov 1, 2005 20:23:20 GMT -5
YAY!*gives many hugs and kisses for a good job*
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Post by Gibby on Nov 1, 2005 21:19:15 GMT -5
YAY TOO!!!! ~Big Huggles~ I'm so proud of you!! It looks like it's all coming together nicely!
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Post by Hallie on Nov 1, 2005 21:24:14 GMT -5
YAY three!!! See? This is proof that when you've reached what seems to be the bottom, the way up seems to always present itself... *Looks at self and wonders when I became the kind to blow sunshine out her arse, then shrugs goes with it* I'm proud of you! Have I mentioned that already...? Well, if not, I am. I'm glad to see things looking up for you.
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Post by PandieCandii on Nov 2, 2005 9:34:21 GMT -5
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Post by Hallie on Nov 2, 2005 12:49:34 GMT -5
*Giggles* Awww... See, I told you that Mommy would come around... even if she -is- being stubborn about it. Its nice to know that things are going so well so far. The Super sounds like a wonderful lady. I hope you have fun with your little outing, and I hope its what you are looking for. Keep us posted. *Hugs*
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Post by Pixie on Nov 2, 2005 14:27:00 GMT -5
I suppose if we all keep celebrating our small accomplishments we may someday realise that we can do the big ones as well...
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Post by PandieCandii on Nov 2, 2005 19:12:11 GMT -5
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Post by Pixie on Nov 2, 2005 19:21:39 GMT -5
*just hugs you tight because I love you*
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Post by Gibby on Nov 2, 2005 19:33:53 GMT -5
it sounds as though your mother has come a long way.
And it kinda sounds like she is supporting you. You said that she said "Do we agree with this move .........No! will be there to help you Move ..... Yes just as we have always been " She said, yes, we will help you move, even though we do not agree with it. It sounds like she is trying, which at this point, is better than nothing. Don't you think? But don't think that I am taking her side, or anything....I'm all on yours.
I wouldn't back down from your plans, because they sound great, but perhaps try to see where she is coming from? I'm not a mother, so I really can't relate. But I told you about my story and my mom not wanting me to move out. I feel like every parent goes through a time where they realize that their children are growing up, which means that they are getting older too. ~shrugs~ Maybe your mom is freaking out about that too? I don't know, but I would keep moving on with your plans, as they sound like they are really falling into place now. And I had to laugh when you said that the super was yelling for you.  How sweet.
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Post by PandieCandii on Nov 3, 2005 19:35:59 GMT -5
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How sweet.