Life and relationships

[machiakaree]

Ok, this is hard for me, but I have been having issues with my relationship tha tI have been in for four years, I don't know what I am expecting by posting this, but I have been with Nathan for four years and we ahve three kids together. I know that he has recently cheated on me and is dating this other women now, and I still love him and want to be with him is that wrong for me to want that still. I know that he still has some form of feelings for me, but I want to have him all to myself again. I think that I deserve that, but he is not willing to be just mine right now, I want to be loved by him so bad I am just not sure what to do about all this. I found out Sunday last week, and have not been normal since, I haven't really been normal in the last few years, but I know that I was more normal then then I am now... and I have been working on my emotional stress and all that cause I am pregnant and don't want to hurt Christoffer and I am not sure what to do about everything. but that is all that I can say right now.

[Serena Serenity]

I've been there hunny. I just got out of a relationship with a guy who I've spent 5 years with. It's tough really. Though I didn't have any kids with him. He treated me kinda badly, but said he had feelings for me all the same. He wants to keep me around because I'm a convience and not because he loved me.

Now I don't know how your relationship goes, or how your man feels so I can't judge him. But if it's making you so unhappy hun, then you need to find out how to make yourself happy. With, or without him. That's souly up to you. I chose without my ex and I'm happier then I've been in a long time.

My ex even had the gull to tell my sister's fiancee, who is now her ex fiancee, what he was going to get me back and keep the new gf he has now. Then told her to keep it a secret. She's kinda family, or was at the time and she was supposed to keep it a secret? Yeah, so any chance he had with me is gone now.

But what you want and need are different from mine. You really need to do some soul searching hunny and find out what you truely want. Then seperate it from what you truely need. Because something you need and something you want are two totally different things. And that is my opinion.

[machiakaree]

Thank you for your input, I don't really know what I want, I know that I love him and always will. I also know that right now things are getting better, we are both working on the things that have significantly changed in our relationship, and I am working on myself and not what he thinks I need to do.

I am having issues with depression and stress, so right now those things are my main priority and until they are fixed there is nothing that I can do to make things work with him....anyhow thanks again for lending your assistance and I appretiate you taking the time to read and respond to my issue.

[Pixie]

take care of yourself first honey and then in time if things are meant to be between the two of you it will work out-if not it will allow you to find the person that you are meant to be with