My friend....

[machiakaree]

Hello, I have a friend named Maria, that is involed in a horrible relationship....Her boyfriend wont let her see he family, or her friends....She was recently 'allowed' to go back to school, and start to visit her mom. I have been friends with her for about 3 years and they have been dating for about three quarters...Recently I saw her at school, and she said that they were movin away, I didn't want to air my feelings to her again, cause we have seen so little of each other I tried to focus on the other things, but I am afraid that if she moves woth him that he will make her give everything up and that slowly he will ruin her, like maybe make her not be able to talk with anyone....and hurt her physically, and maybe do worse.....Does any one know a way that I might be able to help her I am soo scared for her......

[dannyboy]

talk to her. tell what you see, offer to help her. she really neds your help right now, whether she knows it or not. sit down with her, and tell her what you see, what you're afraid of. express your concern and tell her that you're wi9lling to help her get out of that relationship. tell her she's better than that, and she deserves someone who really loves her, not a controlling @$$hole who just wants someone to dominate.

[machiakaree]

we have all tried that one before, i just spoke with her mom, and she wants maria to leave him too...but she wont listen to us.....I am so scared for her...she says that he doesn't hurt her. But i have been there when he has talked to her and called he a dirty this that and the other thing....and she has bruises every where, and she says that they are from wrestleing with him, but i don't believe her cause i wrestle all the time with my fiancee and my 8 bothers and i never have bruises like that i just don't know what to do if there is anything to do.....

[Machia Karee]

I just got off the phone with her mom, and she is goingto be moving on sunday...i am so scared for her, is there anything that I could do to help her?? I can't take it anymore...every day people ask me about her and all that I can do is cry when they mention her, and I am at school all day so it isn't like I can just lock myself in my bathroom and cry it all out like when soeone dies....I just am so scared that I will never be able to see her ever again and it breaks my heart worse then being dumped on your birthday by the guy that took you virginity, and that really hurts....can any one offer any suggestions, I am willing to do anything to help her....

And even if you don't have any advice, could you pray to what ever you do for me, for her....

[Gibby]

I will keep your friend and you in my thoughts and prayers.

If she is moving away and you don't think that you will see her again, then what do you have to lose when you talk to her? Tell her how scared you are, and that she is too close to the situation to see what he is doing to her and that it's not right. No guy should do that, and that she deserves better. Tell her that you are afraid that you will never be able to speak to her again, and that she won't be safe. I know that this is all stuff that you have told her before, but at this point, tell her again,...cry,....there is nothing left to lose. And it might not be enough, and she might not listen, because until she is ready and wants to change and believe that she is better than that, she won't. I know, I have been dealing with a smilar situation with my roommate. And I have talked to her til she is blue in the face, and i know some of what i have said has gotten through to her,.....but until she is ready and wants to make that change for her self, there is nothing anyone can do.

[machiakaree]

Thanks....I just saw her at school about an hour ago and she wouldn't even talk to me, but her mom was with her and she told me that Ryan said that she could spend time with her family before they leave, and that she was thinking about having her locked up for something so that she can't go with him....I told her that was prolly not a great idea, but if she thought that it would help to go ahead..